Layha’s side:
When I was in hospital, all battered and bruised, an old nanima approached my bed. She appeared from nowhere, it seemed. I was startled, thinking that maybe she was a Jinnat. “Seek solace and comfort by performing your salaah. Salaah is your key to contentment. Start reading the Quran. Begin and reflect with Surah Nisaa. Read the English. It has many lessons for women.” She advised me.
I felt so lost. “Today we are only Muslim by name,” I replied.
“Thirty years ago I was in your shoes. I only found my strength when I became punctual with my salaah. Ask Allah for help first. The best time is tahajjud time. There is nothing wrong to seek counseling. Everyone thinks going to a psychologist or admitting you have depression is only for nut cases and we don’t want to admit this about ourselves. It really helps to talk to someone about this and let it all out without it festering inside you.” She continued to offer me sage advice. She handed me a few helpline contact numbers. “These organisations are excellent and give you a new lease on life, especially from an Islamic perspective.” she said reassuringly. She embraced me with the warmest hug I had ever felt and left. I did not know this stranger, but in a short while I felt so much peace from her compassionate words.
I immediately went to my phone and opened the browser. I searched for Surah Nisaa, the English translation and explanation. I never realized women have so many rights in Islam. Like the rest of the world, I felt we were oppressed. It explained the guidelines about the smooth running of the family unit. Ways to settle disputes. Rules for marriage. How the rights of a husband and wife are apportioned fairly and equitably. It emphasised on the status of women in society. I immediately felt empowered.
I gathered all my strength, got up from my self-pitying state and walked to the bathroom even though my ribs were hurting. I looked at my reflection in the mirror. It was not a pretty sight. My lip was cut. I had big, blue bruises. My one cheek was swollen. My face was riddled with stiches.
It didn’t matter what I looked like. I started making Wudhu. I walked towards the jamaat khana in the hospital. I was glad to see that they had an abaya and burqa available. I donned the Islamic garb. This was the first time I had worn it in years. The last time I wore it was at madressah. I commenced my salaah. As soon as my head touched the thick mat in sajdah, I immediately felt peace and tranquility enter my heart. When I completed my salaah. I sat in duaa. Tears rolling down my cheeks, I was engrossed in conversation, finally talking to my Lord, asking HIM to help me and guide me. It felt like I cried out every pain I had ever suffered.
Soon after the visit from the mysterious nanima, I was discharged. I often still wonder if she perhaps was an angel. I went back home. Aslam was not around. I was relieved. For the days that followed, I couldn’t wait for salaah time. It had become my solace. I started pondering more and more the loss of your identity when you get married. You are either someone’s wife or someone’s mother. You are never you. Before marriage you have such high aspirations and you just give it up all for a man. I made it my mission to find out who Layha is? And so began my journey of self-discovery.
Aslam came home one day to tell us he was getting married. My brother Adam, who was visiting, wanted to hit him but restrained himself. I did not feel a thing. I was at peace. I was basking in the Light of my Allah, and came to the realization that Allah is sufficient for me.
I wished Aslam well. He was shocked and seemed a bit disappointed actually, that I didn’t kick up fuss. I felt remorse about how I had wasted my life loving someone who treated me like trash. All heartbreak is repaired when you accept that everything is the will of Allah.
Aslam and Fatima’s wedding day arrived. Aslam hijacked the anniversary party I planned for us. These material things did not bother me anymore. I felt it was my duty to warn Fati what she was getting herself into. You wouldn’t wish almost dying in a pool of your own blood, battered and bruised even on your worst enemy. Abuse takes your soul to dark places you have never been to before. You feel lost. Every time you get hit you feel like another part of you is lost. I confronted Fatima at the door and pleaded with her to make the right choice. She just shoved me aside. All I can do is make dua she finds the straight path again.
When I reached home, Aneesa came running towards me. “I am so sorry I brought Fati into your home.” She fell on my shoulder. I embraced her. “She was my best friend. I can’t believe she did this,” she sobbed. “I feel a part of me has died now that my friendship is over with Fatima,” She cried.
“I have forgiven Fatima, so should you?” I said trying to console her.
My mother entered the room, “It’s all your fault he is marrying that slut….” I blocked myself off from what she was saying. She babbled on for a while before I looked her with a genuine smile on my face and said, “Mummy, Allah has a plan for all of us. We don’t understand this plan but let us trust He knows best.” That quietened the noise somewhat.
Only by being punctual with my salaah and reading more Quraan with understanding, did my life turn around completely. No one teaches you this in madressah. Turn to Allah in your darkest hours and make dua to Him. Life gets busy and we forget how to be Muslim. We’re never ready to change. One day, some day when I am older then I will go for haj or I will start wearing scarf. All we need is to have some faith.
After the wedding, stories about the wild, raucous after-party started to surface. I was shocked. I knew Aslam drank with clients because I had to cater for the wining and dining, but what I heard utterly horrified me. Although I gained materially, I had sold my soul to the devil in the process.
I went to my brother Adam. “I want to get a divorce!” I exclaimed. “I can’t see myself staying in this hell-hole any longer.” I offered justification, “He doesn’t want kids. I want more out of life. I got married fresh out of school because he was a rich guy. I also told Aneesa to rather study then get married and experience life a little.” Adam came towards me and hugged me tightly. “You can move in with us if you want?” He suggested. I needed a fresh start. I went on my musalla and read my istikharah, begging Allah to show me the way forward.
This is amazing
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Slmz love your blog, but todays posts are repeats of yesterday’s long one, just a little changes made. Is it supposed to be like that? Keep up the great writing.
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yes unfortunately we posted the unedited version we were working on yesterday. We are currently tirelessly trying ot polish up the posts to get to that point.
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No it isn’t it’s just showing another characters opinion and view of a certain situation
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Slmz I’m glad that LAYHA has found ALLAH again reading about her life is starting to turn me towards the right direction. I have been so angry at Allah for taking my baby away that haven’t read salaah in 9 years. I felt hurt that every time I heard the azaan I shut the call of prayer out by doing something else. I married a non muslim but every day he asks when am I gonna start reading again. I was once a punctual person in salaah and reciting the Quraan but reading this story is giving me hope again.
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Sister.. There’s always hope as long as we are still breathing. You were so heartbroken for 9 years that your baby was taken from you… Can you imagine what your Creator and Maker felt like when you turned away from Him? Allah loves us more than our mothers do and you can underrstand what a mothers love… For 9 years you didn’t pray to , but today if you turn back to Him in repentance, He will be overjoyed and ever ready to forgive you and start afresh….
Because He loves you more than you love yourself!
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Sister while writing this blog myself I realized that when we hurt we turn away from Allah. I can relate to you when I was 16 I lost my mother I hated that my mother was gone. Today ten years on I sat one afternoon and realized that my mother lived for us, every sport day she was there every need we had she was there and today o realized that Allah took her away for a reason and that what we need to remember is that there is a reason.
Inshallha you find solace as loosing a child is never easy but Allah comforts all and he is all forgiving so give it a try and you may never know that the one Wajood may be the one that comforts you the most. May Allah be with you
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Wow! Masha Allah beautiful gorgeous post! Allah guide all Muslims on the right path n remain steadfast in Salaah 😘 so inspiring Jzk 😘
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Allah is so merciful even to those that disobey Him. Allah is closer to us than our jugular vein. Any bad situation which brings you closer to Allah is better than a good situation which takes you further from Him.
Your blog is excellent. May Allah make this journey of life easy for us all, and guide us till the end of our lives.
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SubhanaAllah – I pray and hope we all reach that point of peace. Beautifully written Mumtaz
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May this story be a lifeline to all of us whom are weak and those who are astray, the power of duah should not ever be mistaken, May Allah guide us all and keep our kids safe from the evils out there and may we always remember, we are muslim first before anything else.
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Although I read dis blog … 2day it feels different …mumtaz once again beautifully written
I am still shocked dat dis blog is based on true stories … Allah alone knows. We shud pray for our kids to tread da path of seeratul mustaqeem inshaallah and for allah to always safeguard n protect all of us from da whispers of shaytaan n keep our Imaan intact…aameen
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i also kind of liked the unedited version that we were able to read the other day :-). the story flowed better for me.
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the sentences were longer, and the concepts got accross. the support of her family ie her brother and sister in law also came throu much better….when it was mentioned they would work in the shop and do whatever it takes to make ends meet etc 🙂 very heart -warming! enjoyed the read thoroughly
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lol, that shop part eish..
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Beautiful written once again ماشا الله ❤️
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Slms I’m glad some one has found the courage to let our muslim society knw what is happening out there these days n that many muslim sisters are staying in abusive marriages because they still feel there husband is always right. Totally addicted to this blog n loving it. Keep it up
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Just started reading ur blog today. I am hooked. I can’t believed that things like this happens in real life. Please forward me the blog via email.jzk
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Only Allah will understand the pain. We shed tears of blood. We just exist. Waiting fr a saviour. I know her pain.
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Sister Shireen. So sorry for your loss. A loss is only a calamity if we turn away from our deen because of it. Your darling baby is waiting for you in Jannah. This world is only temporary but the afterlife will be eternal. Imagine how sad you will be if you lose out on eternal happiness because you turned away from Allah. Something that brought me immense comfort was a letter our beloved Prophet S.A.W wrote to a Sahaba who lost his son. In those first weeks I use to read it after every salaah and felt as though it was written especially for me.
Here it is:
The following is a letter of condolence sent by Rasulullah(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) to Hazrat Mu`aaz bin Jabal(R.A.) when his son passed away. The same idea should be adopted when expressing sympathy by letter. “I begin in the name of Allah,Most Kind,Most Merciful. From Muhammad, Allah’s Messenger to Mu’az- Ibn-Jabal. May the peace of Allah be on you.l praise Allah before you,the One besides whom there is none worthy of worship.After praising and glorifying Allah, (I say the following.) May Allah give you great reward and may He guide you to exercise patient endurance and may He (also) guide us and you to be grateful to Him. Surely, our souls, wealth and families are wonderful gifts from Allah Azza Wajalla which He has loaned to us so that we may take benefit from them for a set period; and he takes them away after the termination of that period. Thus, gratitude becomes binding on us when He gives, and patience becomes obligatory when He takes away.Your son was also from among the wonderful gifts (of Allah) and a
loan (from Him) AIlah enabled you to enjoy him in a way that was both enviable (to others) and pleasing (to you); and now, in return for great reward, mercy and forgiveness providing you exercise patience- he has taken him away from you. So do exercise patience and do not let your bewailing and complaining destroy your reward, for you will be sorry (if this happens) Know that bewailing and complaining does not help bring back anything nor does it repel grief and sorrow. And whatever is to happen is set to happen. May you be in peace.”
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Yes! you go Layha!! this is getting interesting!!
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